Behaviors Causing
Stress
Do you know that sometimes, it is our behaviors
that causing us stress? Spend a few minutes to read through
the causes of stress.
Some people might believe in predictions, do you? If you
were well educated, you should know that no one could predict
our future. But, we all have the ability to predict our future.
Contradicting it seems, but it is actually our behaviors that
determine how our lives will turn out to be. Behaviors are
the manner in which how do we conduct ourselves everyday.
Behaviors are actually a form of organisms that react to
stimulus producing action and response. Behaviors are formed
when we are born and when a certain behaviour is practiced
more frequently, the more attached that behavior comes. And,
how do certain behaviors cause us stress? It all depends on
the person and how is person taught to be through out his
or her lifetime, but none of us is perfect. Many of us lack
in development in one way or another. The rules of conduct,
such as religion, law, parents, teachers, siblings, employees,
employers, peers and etc play a role in our life. We often
become confused since all of us hold different beliefs.
Therefore, the best teacher in the world is yourself. If
you are willing to spend time studying, learning, listening,
practicing good behaviors you can then predict your life to
be successful. Everyone has a stress management that far surpasses
any other management scheme, you can be your own leader if
you choose to do so. You can consider other people’s
belief as your own practice.
However, you should investigate and collect evidence that
proves a fact is more beneficial than accepting everything
you are taught to do or told to do. For example, I am a logician
And I take extremely complex problems, then break them down
to simplicity. This means I would analyze each problem carefully,
then weed through the pile and eliminate any possible cause
that will produce negative results. Besides, I collect and
gather evidence to support my claims when I am done analyzing,
I deem this to be is a healthy behavior, I do not lie, steal,
or do anything that will possibly harm another person.
As you can read the example above, my problems could be broken
down and minimized, and certainly my behaviors are positive
and my stress level is not controlling my life. Here is another
example, if a child is punished each time he or she disobeys
the parent, then you can predict a series of potential problems
developing in the child’s growth, this teaching will
tell the child during his or her development, that it is appropriate
to speak up when someone hurts, violates, or induces other
types of fears on this person. Eventually, the person will
grow up with the fear of punishment if he or she misconducts.
So, how should we tackle the problem of this poor wrongfully
taught individual to find a way to reduce stress and avoid
stressors? First of all, you must know that, parents play
the most important role in our life. They are the people we
believe in most cases, and whom will not lie to us, and always
have our best interest at heart. Now we see another problem,
this person will trust the parents before listening to someone
else that tells him or her that they are safe and it is ok
to speak your mind. What we can do is, we can teach this person
to practice self-talk first, because self-talk is an approach
that will help us to rely on ourselves, rather than others.
Self-talk is also a way to tell us that we have control of
our life and that we have a right to determine what we think,
feel and believe. From there, we will learn to take responsibility
and learn to communicate effectively.
Other that that, we can also help the person by offering
him or her a tool, which known as visual display. Visual display
will be helpful since it allows us to stroll back into the
past and review our learning so that we can sort through the
facts and eliminate the lies. This will give us to display
a pictorial event in our mind and then role-play to see if
what we were taught was true. Try to recall a time in your
life that you spoke up and no one hurt you or punished you
for your action. Then, you think about how many times this
has happened and what the consequences of your behavior led
to. When you get the hang of it, practice these techniques
daily to learn a new method that will benefit you and change
your life. Ultimately, if you do not see prediction by now
in behaviors, then you probably never will.
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