Infertility
The Devastating Infertility
If you are struggling with infertility, you should know how
heartbreaking it is. One month after another, you wait expectantly,
hoping that you will finally conceive. Month after month,
your hopes are shattered. Eventually, your emotional cycle
follows her menstrual cycle in the same way that the tides
follow the moon.
Identity Crisis
Infertility affects your very identity in every way. It greatly
affects your view of yourself as a man or a woman. This identity
crisis is often subconscious, but no doubt it still adds to
the stress and heartbreak of infertility.
Misery And Broken Dreams
When you are experiencing infertility, you go through the
grief process every single month. It is just as depressing
as experiencing the death of a loved one every single month.
But well in a way, that’s exactly what is going on.
Every month, a potential child is lost, and every month your
hopes and dreams are shattered.
Social Pressure
Of course, nobody intentionally puts pressure on any couple
who faces problem of infertility, but it’s there nevertheless.
Everywhere you go you see pregnant women and babies. Your
friends are bringing babies to gathering and they constantly
complain about teething and diaper rash and colic and 2:00
am feedings, and you would give everything you own to have
their problems.
Stress
Besides all of the above stressors, you may also be going
through a series of stressful, very expensive medical procedures.
Infertility treatment usually takes months or years. No doubt,
it gets more expensive every step of the way. The procedures
are invasive, and your whole life as a couple revolves around
her menstrual cycle.
Take care of each other and your relationship. Give each
other plenty of grace, and control your temper with each other.
Be gentle, kind and caring. Take a weekend away at a time
when you know you won’t conceive, and then just concentrate
on enjoying each other and having fun together. Get counseling
if there is a need.
Find good social support. Never isolate yourself from the
world but do circle the wagons and protect yourselves. Initially,
you may want to keep your social circle small for a while,
and spend most of your social time with friends and family
who are supportive.
Destress and pull yourself together. Simplify your lives and
schedules as much as possible. This is not your time to conquer
the world, so, you can deal with your infertility efficiently.
By taking care of yourself and your relationship, you will
survive the heartbreak of infertility.
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