Stress Coping Skills
Learn how to cope with stress in life to help us
to achieve success
Like it or not, all of us have to deal with stress and stress
is just part of our life.
Very commonly, stress surfaces when we have analyzed our
problems and realize that we do not have solutions to the
problems. When we know that solutions might not be available,
we will start to be panic reacting to the stressors. The level
of stress each of us can bear and how do we handle it differs
from individual to individual. So, we need to review ourselves
and determine what works best for us. Let’s say, we
are granted a promotion in work.
Some might view the promotion as a source of more stress
and think negatively while the others may take it proudly
and see it as a path to higher achievement. If the person
reacts stressfully towards the promotions as more stress will
be bound to person, then this person might feel threatened
because s/he is worried that his or her performance might
not meet the demands.
Actually, it all depends on us to understand about stressors
and stress in our lives. If we look take the promotion as
good news, and then we will understand that achievement will
bring us higher expectations. If we have been mentally prepared
to meet higher demands, promotion will be more of a challenge
than a threat to us. Let us look at how threats and challenges
differ. Threats are either overstated or really existing.
It is an expression of meaning to literal malevolence, harm,
damage, and sometimes even death.
When we feel threatened, a warning signal will appear in
our mind to tell us that potential danger is ahead of us.
Challenges sometimes are positive pushes in certain circumstances.
Challenges can be defiend as a demand, argument or even a
dare. When we are promoted, it is sort of a dare to challenge
us to meet higher expectations.
When a person feels threatened by a promotion, it is obvious
that the person is aware of what a promotion brings. The person
that takes the challenge daringly and run with it may take
the promotion as a competition and he or she must finish and
win the race. On the other hand, challenges are threats if
we were to attend a court due to offences, then our being
is at a stake to certain level. This challenge is a test against
our physiological activities and we are at risk of being exposed.
As we can see, determining challenges or stress will help
us to make better judgment when it comes to decision making.
If you have not done any offences to the legal system then
being present at a court should not be a threat to you. But,
if you had lied to yourself then the stress level will become
overpowering. We assume that people who feel threatened by
promotion may not understand what challenges mean to them.
This person may have lied claiming they were skillful to handle
any task given to them, or the person may be lacking of self-confidence
and only see failure ahead of them.
If you understand this, you will know that each of us needs
different stress management solutions. We need to put our
focus on behavior, thinking, negative, emotions, and capabilities.
If we see someone with inability to stress management, we
can help by pointing it out some facts and solutions to them.
Is it the behavior pattern that hinders you from achieving
success? Or is it something in your past that you can’t
put down? Why do you see promotion as a stress to you? Do
you think that you are born to be a failure? These are a series
of questions that one can ask
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