Weight Loss Secret
Weight Loss Secret: Saying NO
Inspirational writer and teacher Geneen Roth has made career
out of offering people, especially the women the alternative
to dieting for natural weight loss.
Roth herself has struggled with her weight for years. By
her own admission, she gained and lost a thousand pounds for
a span of ten years with yo-yo dieting. She was anorexic and
underweight, and a few years later, she was eighty pounds
overweight. In her late twenties, Roth concluded that dieting
never had and never would work for her other than feeling
deprived. So she went through the ritual of burning all her
diet books, and since then she started eating whatever she
wants, and advising others to do the same. That, she argues,
is the best way of breaking free from compulsive eating and
all of the weight problems it engenders.
Geneen Roth is also interested in studying the psychological
causes behind weight gain. One of them being the inability
to say ‘no’ and to reject whatever is given to
us. According to Roth, women are conditioned to be agreeable.
We loathe to decline social invitations, or propositions from
men. We take on more work than we should, both at home and
in the workplace. And we do it because we have the conception
of that it’s somehow ‘not nice’ to say no.
This is also one of the reasons why women gain weight, then,
is so that the weight gain itself will somehow ‘say
no’ for us. Being overweight or obese will somehow make
sure you don’t get unwanted advances from men. Being
overweight and a woman in today’s world is a good way
of being invisible, overweight women usually do not get nearly
as much attention when they are out in public, and they are
more prone to dress in colors that make them look outstanding.
If you find it hard to say no, it’s likely that you’re
letting your weight speak for you.
So, why would we feel compelled to eat compulsively in a
way that is likely to cause weight gain? We tend to engage
in behaviors that are adaptive, not maladaptive. If being
overweight makes us feel safe, it is very likely that we will
do it out of security. Gaining weight is actually a way in
which your subconscious tries to take care of you, to meet
your needs, to allow you to say no.
Unfortunately, pounding on weight is just as destructive
as smoking and drinking. All of us know that being very damage
our health. In the end, you are more likely to suffer from
one of a whole range of health problems if you are overweight.
These also extend to psychological problems, because despite
what the behavior is saying, no one really wants to be overweight.
Who does not wish to be healthy and happy?
So, now you should learn to be clear about yourself, learning
to say NO. Say no to invitations, propositions, pick-ups,
and requests and etc, unless you really want to accept. Learning
to say no is the first step that you learn to take care of
yourself.
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